Caregivers Can Celebrate Mother’s Day With Forgiveness
Nearly any of us who are mothers have wanted to be a perfect example of motherhood. Yet, the reality is, since we are human, most of us perceive some failures in our own mothering. We do the best that we can and often overcome tough issues of our own. Yet we are rarely the saints who are often portrayed in literature and advertisements, especially during this special time when we celebrate mothers.
We need to understand, love, and forgive ourselves for our perceived imperfections as mothers. And yes, we need to try to understand, love, and forgive our mothers for what may have been less-than-perfect mothering practices. Perfection is hard to define and resides in the eye of the beholder, so it’s a subjective idea, anyway.
Most readers will feel that their mothers have had some flaws but did a pretty good job. Some readers, unfortunately, were raised by abusive mothers – often women who were themselves abused and were too emotionally damaged to break the cycle.
Most of our mothers did their best: I’d like to pay tribute to my own mother. She was a wonderful, loving person. Was she perfect? No. She was human, so she had her faults. But I look back on our relationship with love, appreciation, and compassion. I do know that I was fortunate to have her as my mother.
How about your mother? Can you look back on your childhood and say “She did her best?” For readers who suffered emotional and/or physical abuse from mothers with compromised minds, hearts, and spirits, that takes a lot of understanding, forgiveness, and perhaps professional help. However…
Continue reading about how forgiving our mom (sometimes through therapy)
for being less than perfect can free us for future growth:
Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories. “For anyone having to walk the last segments of life with a loved one, read this.” …Delores
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