When Loved Ones Rally Before Death

Family members are often relieved and hopeful when a dying loved one suddenly becomes more aware of their surroundings or begins talking or eating again. But, are they truly getting better or just consciously preparing for their final journey?

When a person is dying, it is customary for close family members to remain at their bedside, sometimes for days. This time together is precious, allowing loved ones to share final moments, work through accepting the loss and process what this absence will mean in their lives.

End-of-life journeys are complex. Most people expect or imagine a progressive decline that often ends with a lapse into a coma (a deep state of unconsciousness) shortly before passing away. But in some cases, a loved one’s decline may seem to stop suddenly and inexplicably.

What Is an End-of-Life Rally? When a person facing the end of life “rallies,” they become more stable and may want to talk or even begin eating and drinking again. Some people describe this phenomenon as a sudden burst of energy before death. This period of perking up can be accompanied by such a notable change in mental clarity that hospice professionals have coined the phrase “terminal lucidity” to describe it. This change in cognition and behavior goes against everything families learn about the physical signs that the end of life is near. We grasp at what seems to be a turnaround in our loved one’s health and sigh with relief. It appears as if they are going to hang on for a while, right?

Sadly, rallying is usually a hallmark pre-death sign. I have known many family caregivers, hospice aides, nurses and doctors who have seen their patients show “improvement” before death. Some patients want to talk, while some become restless and act as if they need to start preparing for a trip. Others will simply become more relaxed yet remain tuned in to what is going on around them. Still others will show signs of physical stability when, seconds before, they seemed on the verge of letting go. A rally can last for a few moments or even days. Short or long, these temporary “improvements”

Continue reading on Agingcare for more about the end-of-life rally (terminal lucidity):

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