Accusing Others of Stealing Common for People Experiencing Dementia
Dear Carol: My mom’s been in memory care for over a year, and she’s been happy with the caregivers and social opportunities. I’m aware of elder abuse as well as theft opportunities, however, I’ve witnessed nothing but great work on the part of the caregivers even when I’ve dropped in at odd times. Recently, though, Mom’s been telling me that “they” are stealing her things. When I ask her what’s missing, she can’t say, and I don’t see any gaps in her possessions other than the clothing in the laundry. I assume she forgets about the laundry, so if something isn’t in her closet, she thinks it’s stolen. Telling her the items are being washed doesn’t help, but how else can I respond? – GJ
Dear GJ: This is frustrating for you, and sad for your mom. Likely, the staff has been through this repeatedly, so expect them to take it in stride and even assist you with techniques to help manage your mom’s anxiety about her things. You mentioned elder abuse…
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