Minding Our Elders

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The ‘AARP Caregiver Answer Book’ Will Become a Classic

I was honored when asked to provide my thoughts about the then-forthcoming The AARP Caregiver Answer Book by Barry J. Jacobs, PsyD and...

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Setting Boundaries with Difficult Elderly Parents

When the family member we are trying to care for is critical, impossible to please or emotionally abusive, long-standing family dynamics are...

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Top Excuses from Siblings Who Don’t Help with Caregiving

Unfair as it may seem, even in families with many adult children, one sibling usually becomes the primary caregiver for their aging...

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Mother Suffers Cognitive Setback after Celebratory Family Event

Dear Carol: My mother is 83 and living alone in her condominium. She’s been showing signs of moderate forgetfulness, but more worrisome...

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Father’s Day as a Caregiver: Remembering Dad Before Dementia

As with every Father’s Day, this Father’s Day, I’ll have fond memories of my dad, as will many caregivers and adult children....

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Coping with the Stigma of Dementia

People stare. Most are not unkind, they are just curious. But when someone “different” from the norm becomes part of their environment,...

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How to Cope With a Senior’s Complaining and Negativity

You took your mom to the doctor, and she’s upset with you because the appointment took too long. You helped Dad with...

Seniority Authority presents: A Caregiver’s Toolbox with Carol Bradley Bursack, Minding Our Elders

Recently, I had the honor of being interviewed by Cathleen Toomey of Seniority Authority. Cathleen’s enthusiasm for the topic turned the experience...

Caregiver Stress Is a Given; How to Manage It Is Key

Most of us lead frantic lives. That’s the nature of the world today. When you add to that the job—for it is...

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How Often Should I Visit Mom When She First moves Into a Care Facility?

Q: How often should I visit mom in the nursing home when she first moves in? I heard some facilities limit the...