Gifting a Family Caregiver without Creating Extra Burden
Dear Carol: My friend’s husband has been living with Alzheimer’s disease for several years which, of course, has dramatically changed both of their lives. She’s a loving spouse who is no longer young but is dedicated to keeping her husband at home as long as possible. Thankfully, he’s a sweet man who has not yet been too difficult, however she can’t leave him alone for long. I’d like to give her a Christmas gift that is special and just for her, but I don’t know what is appropriate. We don’t normally exchange Christmas gifts, so I don’t want her to feel the need to give me something in return. Are there dos and don’ts? – TR
Dear TR: It’s kind of you to honor your friend in this way and want to make her life, if not easier, at least a little more cheerful. Obviously, you’re also empathetic in that you recognize that some gifts, while well-intended, may not accomplish this purpose. Since you don’t want to add to her already difficult life by making her feel she must reciprocate, keep…
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