Family Caregivers Still Undervalued By Many
We live in a society that tends to value what we do over who we are.
If what we do isn’t highly paid or well understood, many people often brush it off as unimportant. Thus, one of the most important jobs in our society today – that of being a family caregiver – is all too often undervalued by people who don’t understand.
We may not be able to control other’s viewpoints, but we do have some control over whether we accept this view of what we do and remain confident in our own decisions.
During the two decades I spent caring for different combinations of multiple elders I often found myself searching for what I hoped would be a suitable answer to the question: “What do you do?”
This question was generally asked at the occasional social event I attended.
I’d learned early on that people really weren’t interested in how I was on call 24/7 because of potential emergency situations with several elders. They didn’t care that I often spent two or three out of five week days taking people to medical appointments and much of the rest of my week tending to their daily needs. They couldn’t relate to that kind of life and didn’t regard what I did as a “real” job.
Therefore, I wasn’t worth much more than a brief nod before they’d move on to someone more interesting. Eventually, I grew strong enough to not worry about what other people thought and found my own satisfaction in giving loving care to my family.
Statistics can help back our case
As millions of boomers’ parents continue to age, more people have been called on to be family caregivers.
This increased demand has given caregiving a higher profile, which helps some, but the general public still tends to lack a true understanding and respect for what caregivers do.
We shouldn’t have to justify our choices to care for our adult loved ones, or go on a rant about how we are trying to fulfill what we see as our responsibilities. Yet we often do…
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“An inspiring read for caregivers! Minding Our Elders is a series of stories about caregiving. But it is much more than that. It’s a book that helps us view aging and community through the lens of someone well versed in eldercare. Author Carol Bradley Bursack has been a caregiver for a neighbor and six elderly members of her family. These experiences made her the perfect person to interview and share the stories of friends and acquaintances. Through crisp writing and a sharp focus, we enter the lives of those struggling to care for loved ones with dementia and other age-related illnesses. As I read Minding Our Elders, I felt myself filling up with both appreciation and admiration for those who adopt the caregiving role. In addition, I was struck with the inherent value Carol sees in our elders. This is a well-written book that will stir your heart!” …Ann C
