Wife Sleeps too Much and Has Lost Interest in Appearance and Bathing
Dear Carol: My wife has always been interested in style and appearance, so regular hair and nail appointments were part of life. Long baths were as important as breathing. About three months ago, she announced she was done with that and wanted to be more relaxed with her grooming. She also began sleeping late and taking long naps. I’m fine with her not wearing makeup and having her salon visits, but her lack of interest concerns me. She had her wellness check recently, and her blood work is normal for her age. Since she spruced up for her appointment, the doctor didn’t notice anything different, and she didn’t mention any changes. I know she likely needs mental health attention, but I can’t convince her that anything is wrong. What next? – RT
Dear RT: It’s hard to see such changes in a spouse. I’m sorry you’re facing this, but you are, so let’s address your question about what’s next. Wellness checks are meant to be a gateway to more thorough exams if problems are uncovered. Ideally, you’d be able to convince your wife to schedule a complete physical and take you along to add input based on your observations. It’s possible that she has thyroid…
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