Cherish Holiday Gatherings with Aging Parents Leaving Serious Discussions for Later
Dear Carol: Though my family is large, we happily gather at our parents’ house each Thanksgiving and Christmas. This year should be like others, except for the increasing concern about their ability to stay in their beloved home. While we all bring food and help in the kitchen, it’s evident that hosting this large group is becoming too much for Mom. Dad is healthy, but his memory is slipping, which increases our concern for their safety. My brother suggested we take advantage of our traditional gathering to push them to sell the house and move to assisted living. He feels that our combined presence will carry the most weight. To me, that seems like we’re ganging up on them. Also, I don’t like the idea of potentially ruining the holidays with such a sore topic. What do you think? Are the holidays a good time for big discussions? – GL
Dear GL: I agree with you that your parents could use encouragement to make some changes. You’re also right about the danger that your parents could feel ganged up on if you all follow through with your brother’s plan. In your brother’s defense, for years, there was a narrative presented by experts that families…
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